So recently I went out on this date with a guy an afterwards I come to find out (not from him btw) that he just didn't feel there was a spark between us, which happens all the time and I understand....oh and I'm not religious enough. Personally I find this hilarious! Mostly because he went on and on about how much he liked me and how I met the criteria for his checklist. Clearly he made an oversight because I have never pretended like I gave a shit about religion. I have nothing against people who do, I just don't. But this isn't where I'm going with this post.
I found this whole thing out from our friend, and even though our personalities didn't mesh and I'm not exactly heartbroken, having someone go from all over you to no longer liking you overnight is a bit of a self-esteem drop. So needless to say I was a little frustrated, and venting about it to the friend who told me the bad news. Somewhere along the conversation I brought up how I hang out with men on campus mostly because all of my female friends are more attractive then me. Being a good friend he of course said "oh common that cannot be true." I then proceeded to name off all the female friends we have and point out how they are more attractive to me. I know, not healthy, but it still happened. Anyway, I get to this one friend of mine who we work with who is absolutely drop dead gorgeous and my male friend proceeds to say "yeah, but that is like comparing Heidi Klum to the average girl"....
Men, it is never a good idea to tell a woman that she doesn't look like a super model. We know we don't and frankly I don't want to go through the desperate measures to get there. That's a lot of plastic going in and a lot of fat coming off and frankly I like food too much. But even though I know I'm not as pretty as a super model, I don't want a guy to rub it in my face, let alone tell me one of my coworkers and friends is as pretty as a super model and I will never be able to compare. This is so not helpful, and the sad part is he meant it to try and make me feel better!
For the record, my friend was legitimately trying to help, just saying all the wrong things. But this begs the question of why is that ever guy I know feels they can say whatever they want to me and think it is okay? I know they can get away with a lot more when talking to me then some other women, but I'm still a girl. When I'm feeling down, don't tell me I'm not pretty. Also, telling me that ever guy I know wants to "tap that" in reference to my friend doesn't help either. I don't mean to rip on my friend though because in the end he did help me feel better, but it took a long time for him to remove his foot from his mouth.
The next time I feel I need a mans help I'll just walk up the street to the store and buy myself some ice cream, because frankly Ben & Jerry are the only two men who understand how to make me feel better.
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